In this time of new normal, we realize just how little we are able to control. However, I want to share a lens to view the present and future which will give us some power to make better decisions, regardless of circumstance.
What we do have control of is our perspective. We have a hundred percent control of our perspective, in every circumstance, no matter how difficult. This give us the power to actually live above our circumstances. We can live above our circumstances when our perspective (how we choose to look at things) interprets our circumstances, rather than allowing our circumstances (things that happen to us) to determine our perspective.
Below are some strategies to consider which will help you to maintain a positive attitude, and that provides the best opportunity to find solutions:
- Zoom out on the issue and focus on the grand scheme of things. More often than not, the raging fires in our lives hijack our attention and we fail to see the big picture. It’s rarely the case that every aspect of our lives goes awry at the same time, and it’s critical to keep the right perspective when the going gets tough.
- We need to remember that our problems are merely a subset of everything that’s going on in our lives and not let the worries, fear, and anxiety overtake our minds. Even if every area of our lives – namely health, relationship, work, money, and passion – has gone haywire, the fact that we’re alive means there’s hope for things to turn around.
- Do not let the darkness blind you from seeing the stars. It’s human nature to get caught up with the things that are not working out in our lives and forget the good bits. Having a grateful heart makes one a magnet for abundance. No matter how terrible life may seem at any single point, there are always good things if we keep our eyes peeled for them.
- Find a way to learn from the challenge. Challenging times can be excellent learning opportunities. There’s a lesson in there somewhere, but you must look for it.
- Be accurate. When something goes wrong, we often jump ten steps ahead and foresee the worst possible outcome. Avoid letting your emotions get the best of you. Be objective while analyzing the situation.
- Ask yourself what you can do about it. Then listen to the answers you receive. Stay focused on solutions and avoid dwelling on the problems. Do you think it would be more effective to spend 90% of your time solving the situation or 90% of your time worrying?
- Go for a walk or run. Any form of exercise will do. Exercise can put that excess physical and mental energy to work. If you’re feeling stressed, some vigorous exercise will help. Most importantly, take care of yourself. Even during stressful times, it’s important to eat properly and to get enough sleep.
- Maintain a positive attitude. Focus on the positive aspects of your life. One challenging situation doesn’t negate all the good things in life. Make a list of the many things that create a sense of gratitude in your life. By focusing on the positive, the negative will hold less power over you. The good feelings you generate will increase your ability to overcome the situation.
- Realize that the situation is temporary. You’ve had many challenging times in your life, but you’ve survived all of them. It’s often surprising how much a situation can change in just a couple of days, weeks, or months. Just hang on and you’ll come out on the other side before you know it.
- Help someone else. Helping others is an effective way to maintain a healthy perspective. There are people all over the world that would gladly trade their best day for your worst. Put your attention on helping someone else. You’ll feel much better and come to the conclusion that things aren’t really that bad.
- Ask for help. There’s no reason to face the world alone. There are many people in your life that would be happy to provide a helping hand. All you have to do is ask. Wouldn’t you help someone if asked?
- 12. Find the advantage. Perhaps there’s a silver lining to your situation. If you look hard enough, the challenging situation might provide a huge advantage. You’re unlikely to find it if you don’t look.
- Visualize a positive outcome. In many respects, you get what you expect. Take a few minutes each day and visualize a highly positive outcome. Expecting the worst can have negative consequences.
Working diligently on the one thing we can control – “Our Perspective” – will position us best to face whatever challenges life circumstances deal to us – and will allow us the emotional and